My wife is not the same woman that I married ↘

…my wife isn’t the same person that I married. When I met her she was a 22-year-old college student. Now she’s a 27-year-old mother of two. Sure she still has the same DNA, the same biological identity, and she’s still the kind of girl who can appreciate a good beer and a fart joke. But she’s not the same. That’s because I married a human being, not a mannequin. I said my vows to a person, not a computer program.

“People sometimes change,” says the wise sage.

No, people always change. They never stop changing. Life is change.

Divorcing someone because they change? You might as well divorce them because they breathe.

I’m not making light of it. I know that sometimes people change in a painful and inconvenient manner. I know that my wife could change in ways that don’t cooperate with my projections of how she should be and feel and think.

I guess that’s what people really mean when they say they want a divorce because their spouse “changed.” It’s not change itself they oppose, but changes that challenge them and make them uncomfortable. What they should say is: “I want a divorce because she changed in a way that doesn’t fit inside my comfort zone.”

It’s hard, I know. Every day I’m relearning this one basic truth: my wife has her own brain, her own feelings, her own soul. We are linked now through the bond of matrimony, but she is still her and I am still me. She is a force, a hurricane, a wildfire. She is not a puppet dancing on a string. She is a self — her own self — powerful and mysterious.

…So we wake up every morning, sort of the same, but sort of new. We look at each other, we introduce ourselves again, and we choose to love who we see.

We choose to love. And that’s the only thing that will never change.

Read entire post at Matt Walsh’s blog 

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mykindafairytalee:

Fairy Cottage by ~keyite

mykindafairytalee:

Fairy Cottage by ~keyite

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vwillas8:

St. Cecil Cathedral Albi, France

vwillas8:

St. Cecil Cathedral
Albi, France

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constellations-dreams: Hi there! I just saw that you go to George Mason! I go there, too! Well, I will starting on Monday hahaha and I'm going to start going to the CCM more. I'm in Jackie's bible study, too! Unfortunately, I'm going to miss the first TNS, but I'd love to meet you there some time :)

Sure! I’ll be here a lot! Jackie is one of my best friends. See you around!

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burning-lampstand:

Expectant Mary from San Francisco de Asís Catholic Church in San Juan, Puerto Rico (from Ignatius Press on Facebook)

burning-lampstand:

Expectant Mary from San Francisco de Asís Catholic Church in San Juan, Puerto Rico (from Ignatius Press on Facebook)

18 hours ago with 96 notes
My mom is driving 45 minutes to pick me up.

There is so much I want to complain about but I’m trying to be a better person through it. I’ve deleted rant posts so many times in these past two hours for this reason. I’ve offered it up for the soul in purgatory who is farthest from heavens gates.

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shamecore:

living in a hypersexualized world is actually very spiritually exhausting and alienating 

19 hours ago with 2,996 notes
Hey. Guess who is still waiting for the shuttle.

Blood has been spilt. Generations have passed away. When will I make it to the promised land

19 hours ago with 11 notes
Shuttle is half an hour late.

Sigh.

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A Catholic putting Catholicism into a novel, or a song, or a sonnet, or anything else, is not being a propagandist; he is simply being Catholic.

G.K. Chesterton

- The Thing

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